My WOW gametime has been practically zero since Monday! A combination of several forces has kept me from logging in other than to check mail\auctions. But it makes me feel good since one thing I've battled with is the concept of online game addiction. Especially since I come from an addict\alcoholic background (both sides of my gene pool..so I'm double damned!) However I did come to a realization last Friday night that may shed some light into the WOW Addict Debate.
As I've posted before I work a part-time job & so does my wife. She was working late last Friday (it happens once every six weeks.) This permitted me something which even with our new home network is still very rare. Friday night guild dungeon \ raids!!! But alas my guild was fairly impotent on Friday due to a majority of guildies offline and\or doing PVP for rep. This left me lfg for about two hours & when we finally did get a group running & into the daily heroic (Auch Crypts), she had come home (bearing gifts of love & very tasty ice cream) only to find me going over how to clear the treacherous first room of the dungeon. Needles to say she was not happy.
Once I logged off because we couldn't get the pulls right w the tank we pugged, my wife asked me to quit WOW, she felt I was ignoring her & she didn't like the fact that I was playing 5 nights a week. I then realized that was she was saying was that she didn't like me running heroics \ raiding 5 nights a week. She didn't care if I was doing dailies or leveling an alt, because I wasn't involved with other people. If I needed to stop mid quest no big deal, I stopped was w her & then started the quest later. But when I was in a run\raid I was just a lump of flesh on the couch. Also even though I was actually playing less WOW (due to my part time job eating up my weekends), I was now playing during prime hours which cut down on us spending time together. Which brings me to my main point.
In one of my earlier posts I talked about Digitalization of Obligation, taking real world commitments and applying them to a virtual settings. This also means that there needs to be Digitalization of Moderation, the same level of prioritization & self-control that you apply to how often you play poker w the guys or meet w the girls for coffee needs to go towards social activities online.
Also, if your going to be at the higher level of sociability online (Vent\Voice Chat) then you need to have a space apart from the Real World group to do this. In my case I'm debating if I want to start running my raids in the dining room instead of playing in the living room,since I can chat without bothering her while she watches TV. I've noticed on a majority of the people who complain that their loved ones are wow addicts, that one of the biggest gripes is that they are in the same room as the player but being ignored while the player is talking w friends\guildmates online. So main point respect your offline friends need for quiet & attention!
As I've posted before I work a part-time job & so does my wife. She was working late last Friday (it happens once every six weeks.) This permitted me something which even with our new home network is still very rare. Friday night guild dungeon \ raids!!! But alas my guild was fairly impotent on Friday due to a majority of guildies offline and\or doing PVP for rep. This left me lfg for about two hours & when we finally did get a group running & into the daily heroic (Auch Crypts), she had come home (bearing gifts of love & very tasty ice cream) only to find me going over how to clear the treacherous first room of the dungeon. Needles to say she was not happy.
Once I logged off because we couldn't get the pulls right w the tank we pugged, my wife asked me to quit WOW, she felt I was ignoring her & she didn't like the fact that I was playing 5 nights a week. I then realized that was she was saying was that she didn't like me running heroics \ raiding 5 nights a week. She didn't care if I was doing dailies or leveling an alt, because I wasn't involved with other people. If I needed to stop mid quest no big deal, I stopped was w her & then started the quest later. But when I was in a run\raid I was just a lump of flesh on the couch. Also even though I was actually playing less WOW (due to my part time job eating up my weekends), I was now playing during prime hours which cut down on us spending time together. Which brings me to my main point.
In one of my earlier posts I talked about Digitalization of Obligation, taking real world commitments and applying them to a virtual settings. This also means that there needs to be Digitalization of Moderation, the same level of prioritization & self-control that you apply to how often you play poker w the guys or meet w the girls for coffee needs to go towards social activities online.
Also, if your going to be at the higher level of sociability online (Vent\Voice Chat) then you need to have a space apart from the Real World group to do this. In my case I'm debating if I want to start running my raids in the dining room instead of playing in the living room,since I can chat without bothering her while she watches TV. I've noticed on a majority of the people who complain that their loved ones are wow addicts, that one of the biggest gripes is that they are in the same room as the player but being ignored while the player is talking w friends\guildmates online. So main point respect your offline friends need for quiet & attention!
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